A temper tantrum can be an unnerving event whether acted out by your toddler or your boss. The latter is his or her parents' problem; however the toddler's case deserves a more empathic approach. Temper tantrums are not so bad if you can understand what causes it. This will help you prevent or tread wisely around situations that may bring on one.
So what causes temper tantrums in kids? The usual suspects are hunger, thirst, tiredness, feeling sleepy, feeling unattended, feeling uncomfortable, loss of control over a situation/powerlessness, fall in blood sugar, or neurotic behaviour on the part of the parent such as anger, anxiety, exceedingly hurried pace, long chats on the phone while the kid feels neglected. If you can rule all this out, we need to consider other factors that may bring about a temper tantrum.
Some Scientific Causes for a Temper Tantrum
Sensory Processing Disorder
If you believe your child is throwing
tantrums on a regular basis and for no earthly reason, you could consider
evaluating to see if he has a problem with processing sensory input. In plain
English this means having trouble interpreting what your senses tell you. Kids
with this problem can be overly sensitive to stimuli and show excessive
response to sensations. They may find normal touch, sights, sounds, and
movements unbearable that other kids may have no problem with. They may feel
overwhelmed by high ceiling and infrastructure as well as high noise levels. You
can get more information about sensory processing disorder if you need to check
this out.
Magnesium deficiency
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Omega-3 and Vitamin D levels
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General diet and nutrition
A well-balanced nutritious diet at regular
feeding times is a necessity for the overall physical, mental, and emotional
wellbeing of a young child. If this is not available to the child, she may
exhibit behavioural problems and be prone to temper tantrums. Encouraging healthy eating habits in your kids is a huge step in promoting sensible behaviour.
Sugar spikes and falls
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Fluorescent lighting
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Head aches, buzzing in the ears, anxiety, difficulty focusing, and eye
strain are some symptoms. Young children who are sensitive to this may find it
unbearable and be propelled into tantrum behaviour. Toddlers, with their underdeveloped
nervous system, are even more likely to be affected, even more so if they're
strapped to their prams facing up at the lights.
Cleaning solvents
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Food allergies
Allergic reaction to certain preservatives,
artificial food colouring, dairy, wheat, or soy products may present in the
form of headaches, stomach aches, nausea, and feelings of disconnectedness as
well as temper tantrums in young children. Flaming cheeks and ears are a
giveaway in this situation.
Antibiotics
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Anesthesia
Children who may have had to have anesthesia as part of medical procedures before age three may have behavioural problems later on due to its effect on their brains. Studies have shown a link between anesthesia and behaviour but this need not be taken as conclusive. What you need to do is be aware that this could be a possibility when you're unable to identify other causes. Just knowing this will equip you to deal compassionately with your child's tantrums and take appropriate measures to prevent it.
Developmental stage of a toddlers' brain
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The prefrontal cortex area of a toddler's brain has not reached full development. The prefrontal cortex is the thinking brain. At this stage a toddler's actions are governed by the limbic system which is the emotional brain that knows no reason. It plunges into action without thought. This is why it is pointless to reason with your toddler, especially in the middle of a tantrum when the limbic system is all fired up.
For this reason, parents are the thinking brain of a child often well into adolescence and even young adulthood. In the
case of a toddler, it is the parent who uses logic and thinking capacity to
guide her actions and keep attuned to her wants and needs. Identifying and
fulfilling the needs and wants of a toddler using the prefrontal cortex which
is, let's hope, fully developed in an adult, the parent acts as the guide for a
little being fully in the power of an immature limbic system. This needs to be so until children can be shown how to regulate their mental activities through meditation techniques and other helpful measures.
If all this seems a bit too complicated,
here's the gist. A parent's job is not just to feed and clothe the child but
also to think and act for the child; be the child's brain. This happens again
in old age, but in reverse. In old age, the prefrontal cortex area of the parent's
brain shrinks and results in diminished thinking capacity due to senility or
other age-related dysfunction. And then, it is the turn of the adult child or a
caregiver who has to be your brain and think and act for you. This is payback
time for you when you get to launch into temper tantrums of your own.
Thank you for reading this far. I hope this proves helpful in some way in your childrearing. I'd appreciate you leaving a comment as to how this may have helped you, or not. Cheers!
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Thank you for reading this far. I hope this proves helpful in some way in your childrearing. I'd appreciate you leaving a comment as to how this may have helped you, or not. Cheers!
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Really eye opening stuff. I'm the father of a 2 yr old and a 7 yr old. My toddler throws the occasional tantrum and sometimes I've never been able to understand what makes him do that. Thank you for this amazing stuff. And do keep writing.
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